If you have more than one child at home, you'll know this dance. Your child does or says something to their sibling, and in a split second you have to decide: do I hold a firm line here, or do I let this one go? Do I step in and intervene, or do I see if they can figure it out for themselves? It sounds simple. It rarely feels that way. Here's something I see often in my work with families: when we constantly step in and correct, everything becomes a battle — and nothing actua

There is a particular kind of relationship that feels, at its peak, like touching a live wire. The arguments are sharp, the reconciliations are breathless, and the sex carries a charge that seems to enliven your whole body. Many of us have been there. And many of us have quietly wondered: why does it feel so alive? I've been thinking about this for a long time and have noticed through countless recollections from clients that the sexual intensity in volatile relationships is

We've all heard the term midlife crisis in relation to men. That men reach a stage somewhere in their 40's or 50's where they go off the charts and buy a Ferrari or run off with a younger woman. But what is really happening to them? As women we go through tremendous changes over our lives and we shed old parts of ourselves and remerge many times. We have at the very core of us this deep emotional drive which exists also in men but past generations haven't really allowed this

My husband and I are in the throws of raising 3 kids and I certainly notice I spend a great deal of time mediating their agitations with one another and with us. Parenting offers us the opportunity to grow and develop in ourselves and first we must address raising ourselves so we can raise our children. We must practice the very skills we want to instill in our children. Their egos have been molded from our own and the very traits we cannot stand, often have originated within

The Power of Micro Steps Change is one of life’s constants, yet it’s something that many of us find challenging. Whether it’s a desire to adopt healthier habits, pursue a new career path, or cultivate more meaningful relationships, the process of change can feel overwhelming. Often, we’re tempted to make bold, sweeping moves in an effort to transform our lives quickly. But more often than not, these big leaps can overwhelm our nervous system, leading us to retreat back into t

Brene Brown says "comparison is the thief of joy" and boy is she right. When we compare we are doing so out of fear. We desire certainty and answers. Why them? What about me? Our spirit within us knows there is divine time. That things unfold in their own unique time. The same plant produces many flowers that all bloom at different times. We are just like that. The world is designed so we all bloom at different rates. So how do we keep going when we start to lose faith? Usual

Soul modes. Two words that literally changed my life at lightening speed and accelerated my personal and career growth. What are soul modes? They are energetic motivation states that cycle through the body emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually and if we know about them, then we can work with them. It's the age old saying of knowledge is power. The four soul modes are wild, bear, super and sparkle and they each have a deep desire and need to be fulfilled in order f

In just over a year my husband and I have said goodbye to two of our beloved dogs. For those who are dog lovers you'll get it. The back and forth dance you do at the end. A part of me wished they would go on their own, but it seems for many dogs they wait for their owners to be ready and take them through it. That they desire to wait for us to let them go. Perhaps that is the loyalty coming through them. This week we said goodbye to our almost 17-year-old kelpie cross called

I really believe the world around us (which is also within us) is constantly trying to communicate with us and re-calibrate us back to the path we are meant to walk when we start to drift off. My day today was a perfect example of this. It's been a stinking hot Melbourne summers day and after I collected my kids from school we decided to hit the 7/11 for a slurpee run. After we went in and returned to my car, it wouldn't start. Thank goodness I had jumper leads in the boot. F

In a world that often glorifies busyness and perpetual productivity, there exists a quiet revolution—an art that is often overlooked but holds profound significance—the art of doing nothing for the sake of nothing. In the pursuit of genuine joy and personal fulfilment, the importance of embracing hobbies and activities solely for the pleasure they bring, without the pressure to share or post, cannot be overstated. As we moved into probably for most families the busiest month

Pause, Breathe, Reflect! The Christmas season is often painted with an idyllic brush—a time of joy, love, and connection. Yet, for many of us, it can also stir old wounds, bring up unresolved patterns, and test our patience, especially when we find ourselves around family members who may trigger our childhood selves. This holiday season, let’s explore the transformative practice of pausing, taking a breath, and asking, “What am I hoping to get out of this interaction?” Why Th

So often we fixate on what is not working or what is not available to us. Did you know for every negative thought it takes roughly 6-10 positives to balance it out? Every time we give ourselves a hard time, we are actually laying down building blocks for things to get even harder! It's easy to get caught up in the limitations and setbacks that life throws our way, but there is immense power in shifting our perspective. By turning our attention to what is working well in our l

You'd be forgiven for having lost your sense of positivity right now amidst one of the world’s biggest financial crisis's. It can be extremely difficult to tune into our faith and abundance when things seem to be on the downturn however there are things, we can do to re-align ourselves with the abundant nature of the world we live in. We live in a universe of polarities. For every positive charge there is an equal and opposing negative. For every person struggling there is an

Wow it has been a big week in my household and for clients. There seems to be a stirring in the depth of this season of darkness and re-writing the old stories. I was pulled into my own story this weekend with my family. I didn't have a close relationship with my father growing up, in fact it was very disconnected and thus I have multiple times been pulled into this with my ever patient and forgiving husband. And of course, the universe loves to pair us up with a nice package

When do we become women? Who shows us the journey? I found I have stumbled and fell into so many parts of being a mother and a woman and even now at thirty-six years old I find I have days where I still feel like a girl. I started to ponder recently when is it that we become a woman. I remember at intermediate (middle school) watching a video on good old VHS about periods and one of the girls on the video said "I'm a woman now" in relation to her period starting. That moment

Being a parent they say is the hardest job in the world. The juggle of relationships, parenting, friendships and work commitments to name a few can cripple even the most organised person. Why is it that it can be so stressful? Was it always this way or are we ever increasing our loads and expectations? Before kids we all have this ideal of what kind of parent we will be, and of course it will fill the voids from our parents, but in fact our ideal and fantasy of how we believe

On Tuesday night my friend Andrea Funke and I hosted a screening of Damon Gameau's documentary 2040 join the regeneration. It was a fantastic film and a wonderful night of community coming together to learn about how the future could look. The film had the concept that he was looking ahead at how his daughter’s future could be with the agreement that he could only explore ideas that are currently available. It was uplifting to focus on what can be done versus what is falling

Life rarely follows a straight path or the one we have envisioned for ourself. Unexpected events, shifting circumstances, and unknown outcomes often challenge our sense of stability. Navigating uncertainty can feel overwhelming, but it also offers opportunities for growth and resilience. The tricky thing with resilience is that it is built IN challenge and uncertainty. The same is true for faith. It is in the testing of faith and certainty that we are invited to dig deep with

For all of time, teens have been wired to forge their own way ahead, often doing the opposite of what their parents ask or advise. Theirs brains are undergoing huge rewiring and we can easily forget that they are not mini adults. Their prefrontal cortex—the part of the brain responsible for impulse control, emotional regulation, and long-term decision-making—is still developing. At the same time, their limbic system (the emotional centre) is highly active. I liken it to being

“Why do I hold myself to such excessive standards, yet understand that for others this is not necessary or productive?”